Live in relations - For or against?

LIVE IN RELATIONS

Ok, not that live-in relations never made it to the finals. Certain live-in relations do get converted to legally wedded for life!

My thoughts on this is by default, conservative! A big NO... Personally, I see it as:-

• You are bound to each other - physically & emotionally
• You live your respective lifestyle
• And finally, there is "no commitment" and in certain cases "no string attached"

A brief introduction to live in relations
A live-in couple have no worries on any legal rituals. So, there is no framework of responsibilities. One can walk out from this relation as and when they please. 

This is called cohabiting and has its analogy to probationary period. During this period, if you do well at your workplace, the probation status is removed and you are awarded with a permanent employee tag with better privileges. On the contrary, if you do not do well, you are terminated from service. Similarly, with cohabiting, there is this lax behavior towards commitment and time will reveal whether this is to stay for life or end mid way for another probation!

The cons weigh more than the pros (if any)
If you want to live just for the thrills, with no value to morale's and with no strings attached, then this is fine for you.

For those of you who values morale and relationships, this is not for you. No commitment and/or responsibility invites more tension, stress and never ending conflicts. This could be any, all or combinations of the below: -

1. The excitement dies off once the chase is done with. 
2. Sexual enthusiasm and passion deteriorates or dies with time.
3. Physical and sexual abuse cannot be ruled out.
4. With time, both of you get to know the "real" person - the behavior, the habits - the negatives register at the back of your head real quick creating the beginning of "Gosh, ...." 
5. Financial standings may not be shared for common goals. 
6. Responsibilities (which I see is the prime thing) are not shared all the time and a small issue can trigger emotional conflict and radiate to areas of Point 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5; thereby feeling that this relation was a mistake.
7. Social acceptability - this varies with the culture differences. 

Towards the end, there may not be any motivation to get this working into a life term relation and becomes easier to just walk away from your "partner".

My conclusion

To be with the right person, you do not have to LIVE with multiple partners and give yourself away... period! 

Be wise, take out your communication skills, use your decision power and let your head rule your mind and bottom.
Know what you want from this gifted LIFE. 

Yes, married life is definitely not bed of roses. It calls upon set of responsibilities, problems to encounter, conflicts to sort. So, save your time and energy to tackle the real spice of married life - that which is more responsible and mature in nature!

All the best!