Further to the endless debate on porn and rape...

FURTHER TO THE ENDLESS DEBATE ON PORN AND RAPE

I mean seriously, how difficult is it to answer this: -

Keeping your values and morale, is porn right or wrong? Yes or No?

Those who have answered with a No and wants to prove their point, read further. This is when a debate or an e-argument takes place. Honestly, I hate arguments since there is no reasoning; you say things just to win over a topic and get maximum likes!

Once again, I am just referring to one among the many reasons to rape and other associated problems due to porn.

I would like to write down certain things I have understood. These are very random and not in any order. I write as they come to my mind.

"Pornography is not for people who think it's for real. It's fantasy and it's entertainment," she said. (Who said? Sunny Leone said)

More at http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/sunny-leone-john-abraham-on-porn-debate-358223

Ok, so after you have viewed this fantasy world, how many weaklings for real have climaxed or were desperate to make love right away? A fantasy which was a cause that turned out for a real effect to take place.

Your fantasy world disturbs the mind of a few innocent people who does no harm to anyone outside. He/She begins to feed their eyes and mind which are fantasy as you say. Involuntarily or voluntarily these visuals keep running in their mind and a desire lingers to mimic or enact. Failure to reach this results in dissatisfaction, difficulties with sex life,  emotional disorders etc.

Also, if you say this is Fantasy & Entertainment and not real, this fantasy world has an endless, maximum number of viewers. I should assume that they are not leading a real life but are wanting to feed themselves with more fantasy and entertainment.

You tempt a child with chocolate and you know what happens.

Anyways, back to "mature" talks, just a video that came to my mind at the moment. I guess the first 4-5 mins should suffice to know what happens to your brain when you are tempted: -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc3EkVkchso

Hope you got some insight from that!

Moving on...

"It's complete nonsense to blame rape on adult material out there. Education starts at home. It's mums and dads sitting with their children and teaching them what is right and wrong" she said. (Again Who said? Sunny Leone said)

More at http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/sunny-leone-john-abraham-on-porn-debate-358223

I really am not sure whether the ones reading this felt offended or guilty that their mums and dads did not teach them what is right and wrong.
Anyways, while moms and dads taught to their best with definite limitations, social influence broke all limits and brought temptation to hit the brain - spot on!

On few comments I hear very often,

"We watch porn but we do not go about raping women. So porn does not lead to rape. Many play video games. This has not led to any crimes"
- If you say it has nothing to do with rape or has not increased rape cases... porn has never decreased sexual crimes either! Porn has potentially influenced rape to a unimaginable degree, period! As for video games, today... I fail to see kids play outdoors, they are more content having a virtual competitor and play online with the control just at their fingertips!

"Rape existed before porn came into existence. It sounds like it is more today since women are voicing out when compared to earlier days"

- I give admiration and credits to women voicing out. I give sympathy for those voicing out FOR porn! Once again, porn has potentially influenced rape to a unimaginable degree, period!

"Blame it on alcohol"
- Alcohol and porn makes one's mentality go totally derailed. Self control is not for all. It calls for an extra bone to have your own self esteem. The weaklings are the ones promoting this billion dollar industry. Billions of viewers, billions of weaklings! tsk tsk!!!

Is not promoting sex good?
- Promoting sex as an educational content is good. Promoting fantasy  as a form of entertainment is definitely not. Again, porn has potentially influenced rape to a unimaginable degree. If you have self control, it need not be the same for another group of people who are mentally ill. So, stop being excessively selfish, you self controlled people.

There are endless defensive arguments on this topic. Rest to be continued in my next blog.

Till then, have a look at these random statistics: -

http://internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com/internet-pornography-statistics.html

http://www.techaddiction.ca/files/porn-addiction-statistics.jpg

On hearing a 5 year old girl brutally raped in Delhi...

5 YEAR OLD RAPED IN DELHI

5-yr-old's 'rapist' lured her with chocolate after watching porn:

http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/delhi-rape-case-accused-lured-five-year-old-with-chocolate-after-watching-porn-say-sources-357652?fb

Few things I just cannot get in terms with -
Rape & surviving / Rape & death.

As of today, what is even more traumatizing, mentally disturbing are the thrills and excitement men derive from inserting objects.
The trending worry now - "AGE NO BAR + METHODS AND INSTRUMENTS TO RAPE = Maximum (ab)use of her private part(s)

Honestly, ask & answer yourself... 

• At what age did you get to know about inserting stuffs IN? 
• How did you get to know about inserting stuffs IN? Did social influence or Pornography "educate" you?

Primarily, focusing on one among several reasons - Porn!

Too much of hard core pornography??!! What is new that this industry has to offer our weak crowd? Have you been "innocently" promoting this industry with your clicks and downloads which has directly or indirectly made you responsible for such beastly behaviors?

"Porn

This has brought about new views to sex and relationships. Personal contentment or enacting what you watched can to a certain degree influence rape, mental issues, child abuse, dissatisfaction with sexual relationship. Considering the categories of porn - hardcore, bondage, child porn, incest, forced rape and several other nasty classifications, this is today considered "normal" and THE way to make love - both for men and women! It is more of a masculine culture where women are treated in all possible slave manner - insert objects, ejaculate all over her, no caressing, no tender strokes, no warmth or other womanly emotions considered... they are seen as  an object of satisfaction for men to lust and use over and over again!"

- extracted from my earlier blog - Rape

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Meanwhile, talking about the after effects...

We wait for something to happen and then our blood boils, verbal abuses, online posts, blogs, protests etc take place. Most likely we would not do anything since it did not happen to us. 
"Do the story when there is no noise about it" - Sunitha Krishnan

As for these mentally ill people, God forbid any of us turn out mental and behave like JIGSAW for real...

JS: "Hello, I want to play a game" 

("Game" left to our imagination)

JS: "Game Over!"

Law has its limits to punish the accused but all limits have been crossed when it comes to humanity!

Totally disturbed,

me!

P.S.: JIGSAW is a fictional character from the film series, SAW!

Rape!!!

Innumerable rape cases - heard and unheard have passed by over the years. A barbaric inhumane Delhi Rape Case (Amanat) created massive protests and public outrage!

13 days of "fighting for life" and on 29th Dec, 2012 she breathed her last at Singapore Hospital.

Now what about the accused? What will their punishment be - Chemical castration and 30 years imprisonment? Will public counter violence stop such acts? Awaiting Government's final judgement for such a heinous act.

Meanwhile... what are the possible triggers to raping a woman? What could be the input or feeding of the brain/mindset to commit such an act where there is no consent from a woman to be sexually involved?

Family background?

Social Influence?

Movies / Ads / Songs with suggestive meaning?

Porn?

Women themselves?

Family background

An upset family background that can create a mental imbalance? 

Negative social influence

Where an individual have an effect of sub consciously believing and then behaving like other friends involved in alcohol, drugs, nasty talks about women, eve teasing, adultery, murder and the like. 

Movies and ads / Suggestive songs

I do admit few movies have good story lines. But quite a few (or maybe more than a few) make their way through women and movie scenes;  their seductive moves, the pelvic thrusts, the item songs, the bare minimum outfits, the suggestive double meaning lyrics, the raunchy comments against woman which we laugh upon. All of which could stir up sexual violence. Several movies that have rape, bondage, oral, incest, snuff bondage, heavy gore. Pleasure from extreme pain?! Sadistic world... We have commercial ads that objectifies women for men to use. AXE ads are degrading where a woman is hunting down a man who is wearing AXE. Again a sexy and wild ad which portrays women as objects to desire upon and to please men. All these suggestive AD dialog's are a daily feed to the mind. Amidst family, there may be instances where you change the channel or walk out when certain ads are being aired. Maybe we bring in some topic for diversion sake. Do movies influence people behavior in real life?

Porn

This has brought about new views to sex and relationships. Personal contentment or enacting what you watched can to a certain degree influence rape, mental issues, child abuses, dissatisfaction with sexual relationship. Considering the range of porn - hardcore, bondage, child porn, incest, forced rape and several other nasty classifications, this is today considered "normal" and THE way to make love - both for men and women! It is more of a masculine culture where women are treated in all possible slave manner - insert objects, ejaculate all over her, no caressing, no tender strokes, no loving warmth or any other womanly emotions considered... they are just an object of satisfaction for men to lust and use over and over again! Porn a multi-billion dollar industry - thanks to all the clicks from all over the world. Thanks to all the men/women who promote porn with those clicks which leads to certain after effects! A simple click for momentary pleasure can get your own woman a victim of some deadly danger - physical, mental, psychological, sexual dangers. Porn: THE "source of information & contentment"?

Women themselves

I have heard many say that the clothes women wear should not be the reason to rape. Also heard, even if a woman is nude, it does not give the right to rape. True! But do a woman realize that provocative clothes bring in temptation? Men are visualizers; some control their emotions; others are barbaric with mental issues and have to get their hands on any woman who have the assets. Maybe women are hidden lovers of compliments, fame, money. Women are tempted to go to malls to buy the latest in fashion, accessories, handbags, footwear etc. Are they tempted to enact, be noticeable and glamorous? Temptation can happen to both genders; I understand that rather than knowingly or unknowingly provoking and being a trigger to social danger, control your actions. Stop acknowledging raunchy demoralizing comments. Begin first to respect yourself, then among your girl friends. Can hidden, subtle messages ALSO affect the mindset of men?

Is it better to wait for a consequence to take place and then take measures to correct an action OR is it even better to correct ourselves first and educate the generation we bringing up? We the "problem" needs to be rectified before having to begin the blame game! What will you do today/rest of your life to bring on a positive change?