Further to the endless debate on porn and rape...

FURTHER TO THE ENDLESS DEBATE ON PORN AND RAPE

I mean seriously, how difficult is it to answer this: -

Keeping your values and morale, is porn right or wrong? Yes or No?

Those who have answered with a No and wants to prove their point, read further. This is when a debate or an e-argument takes place. Honestly, I hate arguments since there is no reasoning; you say things just to win over a topic and get maximum likes!

Once again, I am just referring to one among the many reasons to rape and other associated problems due to porn.

I would like to write down certain things I have understood. These are very random and not in any order. I write as they come to my mind.

"Pornography is not for people who think it's for real. It's fantasy and it's entertainment," she said. (Who said? Sunny Leone said)

More at http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/sunny-leone-john-abraham-on-porn-debate-358223

Ok, so after you have viewed this fantasy world, how many weaklings for real have climaxed or were desperate to make love right away? A fantasy which was a cause that turned out for a real effect to take place.

Your fantasy world disturbs the mind of a few innocent people who does no harm to anyone outside. He/She begins to feed their eyes and mind which are fantasy as you say. Involuntarily or voluntarily these visuals keep running in their mind and a desire lingers to mimic or enact. Failure to reach this results in dissatisfaction, difficulties with sex life,  emotional disorders etc.

Also, if you say this is Fantasy & Entertainment and not real, this fantasy world has an endless, maximum number of viewers. I should assume that they are not leading a real life but are wanting to feed themselves with more fantasy and entertainment.

You tempt a child with chocolate and you know what happens.

Anyways, back to "mature" talks, just a video that came to my mind at the moment. I guess the first 4-5 mins should suffice to know what happens to your brain when you are tempted: -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc3EkVkchso

Hope you got some insight from that!

Moving on...

"It's complete nonsense to blame rape on adult material out there. Education starts at home. It's mums and dads sitting with their children and teaching them what is right and wrong" she said. (Again Who said? Sunny Leone said)

More at http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/sunny-leone-john-abraham-on-porn-debate-358223

I really am not sure whether the ones reading this felt offended or guilty that their mums and dads did not teach them what is right and wrong.
Anyways, while moms and dads taught to their best with definite limitations, social influence broke all limits and brought temptation to hit the brain - spot on!

On few comments I hear very often,

"We watch porn but we do not go about raping women. So porn does not lead to rape. Many play video games. This has not led to any crimes"
- If you say it has nothing to do with rape or has not increased rape cases... porn has never decreased sexual crimes either! Porn has potentially influenced rape to a unimaginable degree, period! As for video games, today... I fail to see kids play outdoors, they are more content having a virtual competitor and play online with the control just at their fingertips!

"Rape existed before porn came into existence. It sounds like it is more today since women are voicing out when compared to earlier days"

- I give admiration and credits to women voicing out. I give sympathy for those voicing out FOR porn! Once again, porn has potentially influenced rape to a unimaginable degree, period!

"Blame it on alcohol"
- Alcohol and porn makes one's mentality go totally derailed. Self control is not for all. It calls for an extra bone to have your own self esteem. The weaklings are the ones promoting this billion dollar industry. Billions of viewers, billions of weaklings! tsk tsk!!!

Is not promoting sex good?
- Promoting sex as an educational content is good. Promoting fantasy  as a form of entertainment is definitely not. Again, porn has potentially influenced rape to a unimaginable degree. If you have self control, it need not be the same for another group of people who are mentally ill. So, stop being excessively selfish, you self controlled people.

There are endless defensive arguments on this topic. Rest to be continued in my next blog.

Till then, have a look at these random statistics: -

http://internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com/internet-pornography-statistics.html

http://www.techaddiction.ca/files/porn-addiction-statistics.jpg

On hearing a 5 year old girl brutally raped in Delhi...

5 YEAR OLD RAPED IN DELHI

5-yr-old's 'rapist' lured her with chocolate after watching porn:

http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/delhi-rape-case-accused-lured-five-year-old-with-chocolate-after-watching-porn-say-sources-357652?fb

Few things I just cannot get in terms with -
Rape & surviving / Rape & death.

As of today, what is even more traumatizing, mentally disturbing are the thrills and excitement men derive from inserting objects.
The trending worry now - "AGE NO BAR + METHODS AND INSTRUMENTS TO RAPE = Maximum (ab)use of her private part(s)

Honestly, ask & answer yourself... 

• At what age did you get to know about inserting stuffs IN? 
• How did you get to know about inserting stuffs IN? Did social influence or Pornography "educate" you?

Primarily, focusing on one among several reasons - Porn!

Too much of hard core pornography??!! What is new that this industry has to offer our weak crowd? Have you been "innocently" promoting this industry with your clicks and downloads which has directly or indirectly made you responsible for such beastly behaviors?

"Porn

This has brought about new views to sex and relationships. Personal contentment or enacting what you watched can to a certain degree influence rape, mental issues, child abuse, dissatisfaction with sexual relationship. Considering the categories of porn - hardcore, bondage, child porn, incest, forced rape and several other nasty classifications, this is today considered "normal" and THE way to make love - both for men and women! It is more of a masculine culture where women are treated in all possible slave manner - insert objects, ejaculate all over her, no caressing, no tender strokes, no warmth or other womanly emotions considered... they are seen as  an object of satisfaction for men to lust and use over and over again!"

- extracted from my earlier blog - Rape

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Meanwhile, talking about the after effects...

We wait for something to happen and then our blood boils, verbal abuses, online posts, blogs, protests etc take place. Most likely we would not do anything since it did not happen to us. 
"Do the story when there is no noise about it" - Sunitha Krishnan

As for these mentally ill people, God forbid any of us turn out mental and behave like JIGSAW for real...

JS: "Hello, I want to play a game" 

("Game" left to our imagination)

JS: "Game Over!"

Law has its limits to punish the accused but all limits have been crossed when it comes to humanity!

Totally disturbed,

me!

P.S.: JIGSAW is a fictional character from the film series, SAW!

Rape!!!

Innumerable rape cases - heard and unheard have passed by over the years. A barbaric inhumane Delhi Rape Case (Amanat) created massive protests and public outrage!

13 days of "fighting for life" and on 29th Dec, 2012 she breathed her last at Singapore Hospital.

Now what about the accused? What will their punishment be - Chemical castration and 30 years imprisonment? Will public counter violence stop such acts? Awaiting Government's final judgement for such a heinous act.

Meanwhile... what are the possible triggers to raping a woman? What could be the input or feeding of the brain/mindset to commit such an act where there is no consent from a woman to be sexually involved?

Family background?

Social Influence?

Movies / Ads / Songs with suggestive meaning?

Porn?

Women themselves?

Family background

An upset family background that can create a mental imbalance? 

Negative social influence

Where an individual have an effect of sub consciously believing and then behaving like other friends involved in alcohol, drugs, nasty talks about women, eve teasing, adultery, murder and the like. 

Movies and ads / Suggestive songs

I do admit few movies have good story lines. But quite a few (or maybe more than a few) make their way through women and movie scenes;  their seductive moves, the pelvic thrusts, the item songs, the bare minimum outfits, the suggestive double meaning lyrics, the raunchy comments against woman which we laugh upon. All of which could stir up sexual violence. Several movies that have rape, bondage, oral, incest, snuff bondage, heavy gore. Pleasure from extreme pain?! Sadistic world... We have commercial ads that objectifies women for men to use. AXE ads are degrading where a woman is hunting down a man who is wearing AXE. Again a sexy and wild ad which portrays women as objects to desire upon and to please men. All these suggestive AD dialog's are a daily feed to the mind. Amidst family, there may be instances where you change the channel or walk out when certain ads are being aired. Maybe we bring in some topic for diversion sake. Do movies influence people behavior in real life?

Porn

This has brought about new views to sex and relationships. Personal contentment or enacting what you watched can to a certain degree influence rape, mental issues, child abuses, dissatisfaction with sexual relationship. Considering the range of porn - hardcore, bondage, child porn, incest, forced rape and several other nasty classifications, this is today considered "normal" and THE way to make love - both for men and women! It is more of a masculine culture where women are treated in all possible slave manner - insert objects, ejaculate all over her, no caressing, no tender strokes, no loving warmth or any other womanly emotions considered... they are just an object of satisfaction for men to lust and use over and over again! Porn a multi-billion dollar industry - thanks to all the clicks from all over the world. Thanks to all the men/women who promote porn with those clicks which leads to certain after effects! A simple click for momentary pleasure can get your own woman a victim of some deadly danger - physical, mental, psychological, sexual dangers. Porn: THE "source of information & contentment"?

Women themselves

I have heard many say that the clothes women wear should not be the reason to rape. Also heard, even if a woman is nude, it does not give the right to rape. True! But do a woman realize that provocative clothes bring in temptation? Men are visualizers; some control their emotions; others are barbaric with mental issues and have to get their hands on any woman who have the assets. Maybe women are hidden lovers of compliments, fame, money. Women are tempted to go to malls to buy the latest in fashion, accessories, handbags, footwear etc. Are they tempted to enact, be noticeable and glamorous? Temptation can happen to both genders; I understand that rather than knowingly or unknowingly provoking and being a trigger to social danger, control your actions. Stop acknowledging raunchy demoralizing comments. Begin first to respect yourself, then among your girl friends. Can hidden, subtle messages ALSO affect the mindset of men?

Is it better to wait for a consequence to take place and then take measures to correct an action OR is it even better to correct ourselves first and educate the generation we bringing up? We the "problem" needs to be rectified before having to begin the blame game! What will you do today/rest of your life to bring on a positive change? 

Kuwait Road Drive...

KUWAIT ROAD DRIVE

However skilled a man may call himself in driving; I personally do not get impressed by their performance on the road! My ordeals on Kuwait roads has been and still is... stressful, frustrating and a painstaking "event"!

The safe senseless drivers whether they ahead of me or behind me (shivers if I have 1 ahead and 1 behind). Who are these drivers? You would know as you read. First and foremost, SHE scares you on the road. She assumes she can switch lanes while there is a car in motion in the lane she intending to shift. She assumes it is her turn (especially on the highways). She assumes she is a perfectionist with her multi-task efforts coupled with driving - mobiling or make-uping! And honestly, 8/10 women drivers are successful mobile holders while driving (leave alone bluetooth). We can't help our talking ability, can we?!! It sure adds to your style; for me you further establish the fact that women are simply dumb. Oh, and actually, yes, I have noticed women sweep into lanes... Once again, that did not impress me on a "no-traffic-road"; though your car did. Women, I love the cars you drive (mostly)! Ladies, you really have other skills you can work and polish on. Trust me! You can avoid "senseless" accidents. You can take a survey with your friends circle and see where female drivers stand...! *sigh*

Its not like men driving... I would have more confidence in a man driving. His calculations seem more appropriate (With reference to mature sensible men). Over confident men having accidents makes sense. They speed, have a horrendous accident and if lucky enough they die. The unlucky lot stay handicapped at a young age, lifelong; just to traumatize their folks in taking care of them day and night. Not to mention the car is wasted too. In addition to this, they successfully handicap the unfortunate victims or gift them an untimely death. (You speed, you die, drag along a victim(s) with you!) Or even worse... the accused recovers and the victim dies a painful death leaving behind a sorrow filled family! Hmmm, looks like it is better being senseless...

I am not a professional driver. I drive to reach my destinations, safe; though I am worried about the other person not being safe. Personally, I have had instances with both genders. While I am not on the fast track and a driver is just at my bumper (I should assume the gender to be male), I let go off my accelerator (just to let them know - No, I am not moving. If you in a hurry, take the fast lane). Lately, I was made fun of for my U-turns. Now, I would give you 15-30 seconds on a busy road (of course not highways) to give me way. Or else, being a woman, I would have to take out my SCARE weapon and butt in slowly and find my way through. I guess many of us would do the same.

The ordeals continue; as I still have many acts to witness. I have seen an elderly woman been hit by a speedy car and she went way too high up (say half of that tall light pole) and bang on the barracks. I was shaken up witnessing that; As my car passed by, she was lying there... motionless!

Once, I even had a car (sorry a jeep or an AVALANCHE come towards me at a round-about!!!)

These stunt drivers make me feel - I am next (Final Destination) *shivers*

P.S.: A well done visual message @

http://don-veto.blogspot.com/2006/03/driving-in-kuwait.html 

Who do we blame?!

WHO DO WE BLAME?

Very often we blame men for their nasty crime towards women! I do...

Alas to the public "strokes" a lady has to go through on the pretext that the area was crowded or was BY MISTAKE?!! Since men are "visually-oriented" beings, the stares women experience are like being raped by their confident pair of eyes! Like they "felt" bare skin through a 2 layered outfit / jeans in a matter of 5-10 seconds. The extend goes all the way to gang rape & death, rape even after the woman is dead! Horrendous...!

When I read articles relating to rape and disturbing ill treatment towards women, I get over impulsive and begin to abuse these men for such barbaric behavior. The least I could do probably..!

So, does having a brothel around every corner pacify men of desperation?! To a limited extent, yes! To an unlimited extent, NO! There is this thrill & excitement men experience from forced rape, the chase or simply the need for other virgins in town or other reasons best known to man! 

Women! Women!! Women!!! I have some "blaming you" as well... Do you realize you a jaw-drop-temptation?!! From head to toe, we are aware on how to draw a man(men) attention, don't we?! We inevitably create that desire, visual thoughts for our counter partner, men! We appear before them, smack a lasting desire in them and leave them in explicit thoughts; few ladies being considerate satisfy them... The unsatisfied desperate lot fulfill their sexual emotions in some town!

Oh, and regardless of the so called "culture differences" if any lady may raise this point, please do understand the female anatomy are pretty much the same all round the globe and they all pretty much function the way it is meant to be. 

Strange... If women give in to several men, they are referred as bitch, whore, bitch, prostitute, bitch and endless tags (considering the diverse languages available). 

Question: What are men of these nature called??? I never heard anyone criticizing men the way women are criticized. Oh and these could be the same men who have the nerve to criticise, a woman who has just done an equivalent (or more) "action" as men!! And at the end of the passionate journey, a virgin is demanded!
It does not end... Marrying does not shut the heat systems... Temptations linger.... and rest is left to your control of thoughts & action!

Who is to be blamed?

As of today, relationships are numerous, comes in variety and in all shapes...

Values have diminished..!

Bonded to one, but desires remain endless, 

While fantasies secure a few, some get away with realtime ecstasy..!

All are free to do their will (with both or more parties' consent)...

SPARE the ones not willing to participate in your desperate moments..!